'Work your brains out': Dave Ramsey offers stern advice to newlywed drowning in $63K of debt and struggling to support his family on a single income — here's what he said

Big expenses

Before Abdel got married, he had zero debt — other than his student loan — and had $20,000 shored up in savings.

However, he claimed that “stupid mistakes” post-marriage led him to the difficult financial situation he finds himself in today.

Right off the bat, he admitted the wedding cost him about $30,000, which was money he didn’t have in the first place. To add fuel to the financial fire, he was obligated by his culture to buy gold for his wife when they got married.

The gold cost him $10,000, and he needed to take out a loan to pay for it. “I’m sorry, did you say gold?” Ramsey asked.

Today, Abdel has approximately $20,525 in credit card debt, $22,000 in student loans, and a deferred auto loan of $20,211 (for a car he admitted he couldn’t afford). These three debts combined are roughly equal to his annual income of $63,000 working in the finance department for a non-profit refugee organization.

Abdel and his wife have a seven-month-old son together. She’s originally from another country and only has a high school education, so she’s a stay-at-home mom and doesn’t earn any income.

Saddled with debt, Abdel is paying a whopping $1,500 to $2,000 a month in credit card payments. However, his monthly payments aren’t “going anywhere” thanks to high interest rates. He’s even wondering if he should let his credit card debt go to collections.

Ramsey’s advice? Abdel needs to learn how and when to “say no” when he can’t afford something.

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Be realistic about how much you can spend

It’s not too late for Abdel to get his finances in order — it’ll just require a lot of discipline and a rigid, yet realistic, monthly budget.

“What I’m hearing is… you really struggle with saying ‘no’, to anyone,” Ramsey observed. “You’re going to have to practice that word: no.”

In addition to getting tougher on his finances, Ramsey believes that Abdel’s wife will have to get creative and find ways to bring in some type of income, even if it’s only part-time.

“She needs to do something to create some income even if it’s while the baby is napping,” Ramsey said. There are many side hustles that can be done remotely from the comfort of your own home, including freelance work, customer service or selling clothing, furniture or handmade crafts online.

Ramsey’s final advice to Abdel was that he should take on a second job and “work your brains out.”

Bringing in more income, cutting back on dining out, limiting vacations, and turning in the car he can’t afford for a cheaper model, are all crucial steps to his family’s financial recovery.